- 1. Give your appearance the attention it deserves. Bear in mind that a negative self-image can lead to a negative attitude, while good grooming and clothes that are becoming, can lift your spirits and build your confidence.
- 2. Monitor your self-talk. Are you aware of the inner dialogue you carry on with yourself during your waking hours? Do you say critical and negative things to yourself such as “I’m always making errors,” or “That’s just my luck,” or “I’m no good at math?” The more frequently these negative thoughts are repeated, the stronger they become. The first step in overcoming negative self-talk is to become aware of it. The next step is to replace these self-defeating thoughts with positive and productive ones.
3. Feed your mind positive thoughts. Why not resolve to read at least one motivational or inspirational book each month? Or, if you prefer, listen to tapes that provide a positive message. You might find it helpful to write down on small cards certain positive thoughts that you find especially encouraging. Carry one of these cards with you each day and read it several times during the day.
4. Change your vocabulary. In his latest bestseller, Awaken the Giant Within, Anthony Robbins tells how he was able to lower the intensity of his anger by changing the words he used to describe his emotional state. Instead of saying he was “angry and upset,” he chose to say, “I feel myself getting a ‘bit peeved’.”Robbins believes that our choice of words can not only lower the intensity of our negative emotions, but it can also intensify our positive emotions. For example, when someone asks how you are doing, instead of saying “all right,” say “superb.” Robbins suggests, “Notice the words you habitually use and replace them with ones that empower you.”
5. Keep a record of the positive things in your life. If you like to keep a diary or journal, you may find it helpful to record positive things. Although your will want to record major events and accomplishments, it is also important to focus on the little, everyday things that bring you pleasure – having lunch with a friend, listening to a favorite song or taking a leisurely stroll in the park. In other words, use your journal to count your blessings.
6. Let nature replenish your inner resources. Even a few fleeting moments enjoying the beauty of a sunrise or a sunset, can give your spirits the lift they need.
7. Share your positive attitude by encouraging others. Never miss an opportunity to compliment people on their achievements, their work or their appearance.
8. Vary your routine. Probably, the most common way to add variety to life is to take a vacation. For most of us, a vacation is a once-a-year event. Our attitudes certainly need recharging more than once each year. Often, even small changes such as taking a new route to work, eating at a different restaurant or shopping in a store you’ve never been to, can make a difference. Tackling something new can also revitalize your attitude. If you have always wanted to learn Spanish, become a computer whiz or take up golf, decide right now to do it!
9. Lighten up! Seek out a comedy for that next movie or play or TV program. Ask your local library to help you compile a reading list of humorous books or look in the humor section of your favorite bookstore. You may also find it is fun to keep a scrapbook of humorous cartoons and sayings.
10. Take time out for yourself on weekends. Keep in mind what psychiatrist and author, Theodore I. Rubin advocates: “A day devoted to ourselves – no strings attached – can be a wonderful morale booster. This is not selfishness; it is just good mental health.”
What all of these tips have in common is the recognition that attitude is not a mysterious force over which we have no control. It is a simple, but powerful fact, that one of the things over which each of us has control is our attitude.