There’s a saying: “I prayed for God to protect me from my enemies, and all my friends disappeared.” I know this sounds harsh, but surrounding yourself with negative, draining people regardless if they are friends or family, raises no one to another level. Let them go, or severely limit your time with them and love them from a distance. Jim Rohn (mentor to many of the personal development greats such as Tony Robbins and Darren Hardy) said, “You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with in all areas, mood, outlook, finance, character, body shape and importantly, your health!” Who are you spending time with?
Success can only flourish in the realm of possibility. Negative people can quickly deflate, demoralise and rain on your parade. And they will – to make themselves feel better about not reaching their potential. Don’t ask them to be excited for you, help you, or even understand your excitement about success. They aren’t capable of it and will only try to magnify your doubts.
Early on in my first entrepreneurial adventure 21 years ago, a mentor gave me the above advice and it took me a long time to heed it. It felt mean, uncaring and disloyal to those I thought were my friends. When an misunderstanding happened and alienated me from them (their doing) I was devastated. I realise now, ending our friendship was the best gift they ever gave me, and I have since soared!! When I see them periodically, they are still talking about the same pathetic issues they were talking about 21 years ago. I cannot fathom, that had they not severed ties, would I still be in the same place right along side them? Are you?
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, who allow you to grow, flourish, blossom and affirm you as a winner. Choose people who have similar goals and aspirations and spend time with them. Something magical happens when you do this, the energy grows bigger as the whole is much greater than the sum of the parts.