The Whole Is Much Greater Than The Sum Of The Parts

There’s a saying: “I prayed for God to protect me from my enemies, and all my friends disappeared.” I know this sounds harsh, but surrounding yourself with negative, draining people regardless if they are friends or family, raises no one to another level. Let them go, or severely limit your time with them and love them from a distance.  Jim Rohn (mentor to many of the personal development greats such as Tony Robbins and Darren Hardy) said, “You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with in all areas, mood, outlook, finance, character, body shape and importantly, your health!”  Who are you spending time with?

Success can only flourish in the realm of possibility.  Negative people can quickly deflate, demoralise and rain on your parade. And they will – to make themselves feel better about not reaching their potential.  Don’t ask them to be excited for you, help you, or even understand your excitement about success.  They aren’t capable of it and will only try to magnify your doubts.

Early on in my first entrepreneurial adventure 21 years ago, a mentor gave me the above advice and it took me a long time to heed it.  It felt mean, uncaring and disloyal to those I thought were my friends.  When an misunderstanding happened and alienated me from them (their doing)  I was devastated.  I realise now, ending our friendship was the best gift they ever gave me, and I have since soared!! When I see them periodically, they are still talking about the same pathetic issues they were talking about 21 years ago.  I cannot fathom, that had they not severed ties, would I still be in the same place right along side them?  Are you?

Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, who allow you to grow, flourish, blossom and affirm you as a winner. Choose people who have similar goals and aspirations and spend time with them. Something magical happens when you do this, the energy grows bigger as the whole is much greater than the sum of the parts.

About amidean

An entrepreneur with 20 years experience, Ami most recently started the newest addition to her business family, The Rally Point. As the CEO & Mailroom Clerk at The Rally Point, Ami oversees Operations, Sales, Marketing and well, um, the mailroom. After starting WithIn, Inc. (an employee training and development firm) in 2005, she found herself repeatedly asked by her clients to find them a venue with a more inspiring and creativity provoking environment than the saltine cracker hotel room or in-house training room. Frustrated that she couldn't fill her clients requests (simply because it didn't exist in the market) she, being the customer service fanatic she is, created it for them. Ami holds her MBA but she truly feels her greatest accomplishment is being a living example of work/life harmony and to make that work - "You've gotta get creative!' she says. Ami has always felt that if fun couldn't be part of her job responsibilities, she just wouldn't fit the culture. "Now, I laugh, play and am truly able to create the perfect environment for those teams, businesses and organizations that need to incorporate fun into their meetings to boost creativity, production, morale and inspiration. My job rocks and so does The Rally Point, I mean, have you seen this place?" Fiercely passionate about her faith, her three daughters, and the MiAMI Dolphins, Ami still finds time to enjoy sitting on the Boards of Easter Seals of LaSalle and Bureau Counties and Women in Leadership of Central Illinois, shopping, interior design and traveling.
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One Response to The Whole Is Much Greater Than The Sum Of The Parts

  1. Becky says:

    Very true. You have to guard your mind and heart as well because it is real easy, easier for some than others, to get caught up in someone else’s drama or problems. Not being close friends or best buds with them does not make you or them a bad person. They are just not the right person for you and you have to love yourself enough to put some distance between you. Being around like-minded people is the best way to get to where you want to be.

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