Your co-workers, family and friends will thank me for this!
You know you’ve said it to someone else… “Go to your happy place…” hoping that they would some how magically transport themselves there and never come back. We are constantly surrounded by people who get frustrated- a lot- and never seem to be able to get a grip, or find any kind of positive perspective.
And what about you?
How often do you need to take a mental vacation?
Stop right now and count how many times today you have criticized, sighed, moaned, rolled your eyes, grunted, hurled an expletive, became emotional on any level about something minor…
Ahuh, not pretty. I know, I know! Our work environments and our lives are filled with constant frustration after frustration. So how do you manage it and when possible, dispense it all together?
1. Quit Trying To Change People
I love the saying that says “Until your own door step is immaculate, don’t try sweeping mine.” Need I say more?
2. Quit Wasting Your Emotional Energy
Ok, so the pencil sharpener won’t work! Does it REALLY deserve that much of a reaction?? Really? It’s such an investment in something you can’t control AND it won’t change the outcome AND you’re bothering everyone around you AND your blood pressure just went up AND it’s never really the pencil sharpener anyway is it??
3. Quit Juggling
I have never in 20+ years working with teams met someone who was good at multi tasking. Prioritize for productivity, PLEASE!
4. Quit Trying To Be Perfect
Aim for growth. Aim for better. Aim for improvement. You will live in a constant state of frustration if perfection is your goal – and you will never achieve it.
5. Quit Comparing Yourself To Others
It can lead to motivation, but typically, it doesn’t so tread carefully and run your own race.
6. Quit Being Impatient
Stop trying to be Donald Trump by next Tuesday. It amazes me the years and years we spend behaving a certain way (physically, financially, spiritually, emotionally) and yet become angry that we aren’t on the cover of Sports Illustrated Swim Suit issue two weeks into the diet. Be realistic!
7. Quit Relying On Other’s to Get You There
It’s great to have support and encouragment from others, but be personally accountable for your own results. Don’t be totally reliant on others to get you there (where ever “there” is)
Stuff happens. And we can’t always control it, but we can control ourselves. Ready to return from “your happy place”? I hope so. The trick is to make right where you are more peaceful. Although an occasional mental trip to Turtle Island isn’t a bad thing….